Roy Alvick was a first generation Norwegian American, with bright blue eyes and a quiet demeanor. He was the father of only one son, my wonderful dad, but the grandfather to five active kids. Our grandmother was known to dominate the conversation, but if you could get Grandpa alone he always had something interesting to say. He could always be depended on to listen closely to what his grand kids had to say, asking thoughtful questions with no sense of hurry. Grandpa was one of the smartest men I've ever known, though most people might not know the depth of his intelligence by the lack of his words. He was present at every important event of my life and cried at my wedding. He lived to be 100 years old and had his wits about until the end. Grandpa taught me it's just as important to listen as it is to talk.
Grandpa Don was my mother's father. He had a deep laugh, a big belly and smoked a pipe. He'd spent his life working as a logger, fishing, and writing poetry. He had three daughters (one who died as a young woman), but ended up with 11 grandchildren. He was the pied piper of grandfathers--us grand kids would happily follow him wherever he went. Grandpa Don used to have us pile into his old stinky truck and go up back roads, down to the waterfront of his hometown, or anywhere he needed to go that day. Sometimes, if we were out in the country, he'd let us sit on the back tail gate, swinging our legs over the dusty road (as long as we promised not to tell Grandma or our mother). Grandpa Don taught me that kids don't need trips to Disneyland or expensive gifts to know they're loved, they just need your presence and your attention.
My father, Bud Alvick, is indeed a man among men. He started his career as a math teacher, moved into a position in school administration and eventually became an elementary school principal. Dad was always a people person and had a way with kids, especially his own We didn't have a lot of money growing up and our house was filled to the brim with five kids, two parents, a dog, and various pet rats/mice/hamsters. Dad treated me, the youngest and probably whiniest child, as if I was something special. He never asked me to be more like my brother, to excel at anything I didn't have a passion for, or to be anyone but who I was. He taught me who I am is all I need to be and that the men in my life should treat me with respect and admiration.
My husband, Ed, lost his own father to cancer just months before we met. Although I'd never had a chance to meet his dad, I got the impression that he'd had set a pretty high standard in Ed's mind of what it meant to be a father. Our first child was a boy followed by our older daughter three years later. I could tell he thought this second child would be more mine than his. He looked forward to taking our son hunting and fishing--what would he do with a little girl? These days our two girls have their daddy wrapped around their fingers and he happily takes them wherever they ask to go. "Hunger Games" movies and art galleries may not have been what he had in mind when he started out on the road to fatherhood, but he is happy to make the trip. My husband has taught me that sometimes what you never expected in life turns out to be exactly what you always wanted.Happy Father's Day, everyone!
